Thursday, February 11, 2010

Stressors

We live in stressful times. The pressure of holding down two or more jobs or being unemployed with mounting bills can be quite stressful. If one is lucky enough to be employed the person could often find themselves holding down a heavy job loads and with unreasonable demands being place upon ones shoulders. In this day and age many people are forced hid their outrage and frustration with unfair situations and irrational superiors because they cannot afford to be laid off or fired. This type of stress is quite different from to the individual whom have already been laid off and are struggling to find another job. With mounting bills the person and spiralling debt the person often struggles to cope with being unemployment. In many ways these outside strains are like stressors. Stressors are the barely-tolerable pressures that bring us unhappiness and have been known to contribute to disease. These stressors have been know to cause immense damage to health and well being of the person effecting their physical and mental state of mind.



Some people hardly seem to be affected by stressors. They maintain a sense of perspective and often have a good sense of humor. These people can remain calm in the midst of adversity and catastrophe. This is just the way they are. Were as other people are overwhelmed by a lesser number and intensity of stressors and slide downhill, losing relationships, jobs, and eventually their mental and physical health. This poses a question: why is this the case?

Why Inner strength plays its part. While it may seem that our problems are entirely the result of the enormous stressors in our lives, our mental and inner strength acts to determines the degree of functioning of our nervous system. The inner strength actually determines how we feel and respond, and that is far more critical when it comes to dealing with stressors. Mental balance, normal functioning of the nervous system. Being good humored, thinking things through logically are all aspects of natural inner strength. In many ways inner strength acts to protect us from stressors and would also allow us to express in many different ways allowing us to have a successful and fulfilled life. To put it shortly, inner strength is natural to some people, and what limits others.

There are numerous medical signs of stressors. Many of the danger people face today is the fact that maybe unable to determine what the type of stressors they are encounter, here we focus on the medical and physical symptoms common to tension stress.
  • General irritability, hyperexcitability, depression
  • Pounding of the heart
  • Nightmares
  • Feelings of weakness, dizziness, fatigue
  • Dry mouth and throat
  • Hyperactivity, increased tendency to move about
  • Impulsive behaviour, emotional instability
  • Overpowering urge to cry or run
  • Inability to concentrate, flight of thoughts, day dreaming
  • Floating anxiety, being afraid and not knowing why
  • Emotional tension and alertness prone to bouts of rage
  • Trembling, nervous tics, easily startled
  • Can’t sleep
  • Nervous laughter
  • Stuttering, other speech difficulties
  • Grinding of the teeth
  • Excessive sweating
  • Frequent need to urinate
  • Diarrhea, indigestion, queasiness, vomiting
  • Headaches
  • Pain in neck or lower back
  • Loss of appetite or excessive appetite
  • Increased use of prescribed drugs
  • Alcohol or drug abuse

Please note you may encounter a number of these signs and to be safe it is advisable then to contact your General Practitioner for further advice. For alternative view  About Stress


  • Memory problems you may have an inability to concentrate on things. 
  • Poor judgment , feeling down all the time only seeing the negative.
  • Anxious or racing thoughts about things such as suicide.
  • Constant worrying and moodiness swings
  • Irritability or short temper and agitated about things in life.
  • You may have developed and inability to relax and get overwhelmed with the least smallest thing.
  • Sense of loneliness and isolation spiraling into a depression or general unhappiness.
  • You may suffer from aches and pains or even diarrhea or constipation.
  • Nausea, dizziness and chest pain, rapid heartbeat are not uncommon.
  • Loss of sex drive may occur.
  • Frequent illness and sickness may destroy ones confidence.
  • Eating more or less to comfort oneself is not uncommon.
  • Sleeping too much or too little.
  • Isolating yourself from others family and friends. 
  • Procrastinating or neglecting responsibilities, losing interest in communicating with people
  • Using alcohol, cigarettes, or drugs to relax
  • Nervous habits nail biting, pacing crying for no reason.

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    Thursday, February 4, 2010

    Irretrievable Marriage Break Down


    In a marriage breakdown a situation exists were either or both spouses no longer are able or willing to live with each other, therefore what they are doing is destroying their husband and wife relationship with no hope of resumption of spousal duties. In many case the lack of communication contributes to marriage breakdown. Problems are either not acknowledged or in some cases ignored in the hope that the marriage might miraculous work out. But this is never the case ignoring the problems only serves to make things worse. Some of the issue that contribute to the brake down maybe minute but have devastating consequences for all concerned. The irretrievable breakdown of a marriage provides the ground for a no-fault divorce in many jurisdictions. Irretrievable breakdown of marriage can be defined as such, it is a failure in the matrimonial relationship or the circumstances are so adverse to that relationship there is that no reasonable probability remaining for the husband and wife to stay together as husband and wife for mutual comfort and support.




    If  the situation occurs in a marriage when one person refuses to live with the other, it is important to see if they can work towards reconciling their differences. When there is no hope that parties can be reconciled to continue their matrimonial life, the marriage can be considered as  irretrievable broken down. As in any divorce situation the cases of the affects of the separate may have on the children (if there are any) must be addressed quite quickly. If the divorce drags on it affects a lot of people and the innocent parties such as the children are forced to suffers the hurt and pain, that an amicable separation would bring. In some case the reason for the divorce maybe based on the ground that one part may have commit adultery or just deserted their partner. It is not uncommon for separation to occur if one party is suffers from different forms of abuse or human cruelty.  Whatever the grounds for the divorce it is better that mutual respect towards the other person is shown. If neither party is at fault and there is a agreement that the marriage is no longer working then the separation maybe completed quickly without creating high levels of stress and angry for all concerned.

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    Pressures that often lead to marital difficulties.
    • Sexual Inactivity
    • Financial problems
    • Changes in ones direction in life
    • Death of a loved one
    • Infidelity
    • Alcoholism
    • Drug Abuse
    • Fail ambitions
    • Unmet needs
    • Inability to resolve basic concerns / issues
    • Personal differences
    • Children and your expectations of their direction in life
    • External family influence
    • Immaturity in the relationship
    • Intellectual and sexual compatibility
    • Ones culture
    • Religion
    • Falling out of love
    • Boredom in the relationship
    • Illness
    • Disability
    • Criminality
    • Sexual preference may alter

    Sometimes we must ask ourselves: Have I really listened in full to what my partner is saying?
    Sometimes we must ask ourselves: Do I understand what the other person was saying, did I hear them correctly?
    Sometimes we must ask ourselves: Do we need help to stop from going around in circles. Remember you may have a good honest friend that could help and deal with the issue in a more direct manner.  If you are unable to avail of the services of a good friend the you could obtain the services of a professional counsellor. Are both parties willing to ask for help?
    Please note, don't keep rehashing old hurts and insults when things are hot and angry. Do focus on whatever is of concern at that time. Talk about what's current time period as what is relevant and important NOW not in the past.
    Don't place all the blame on your shoulders. Sometime misunderstandings are grounds for conflict. They are often used to apportion blame or fault for the failure within the marriage. You have to be wiling to ask yourself: Can I refrain from blaming my ex-partner for the difficulties encounter during the marriage?
    Remember invest time in your relationship. Allow each other have their say on matters and come to a common agreement on issues without shame, embarrassment or stinginess being applied.
    In marriage the balance of nature must be always applied. There must always be give and take, hot and cold, high and low, etc. scale. If not, chances are marriage will give way under the pressure and strain forced upon it.  Eucate In Mind